Unacceptable behavior is just that - unacceptable. And I don't care who it is that's acting out - it is no longer OK to treat me with disrespect. Although I believe that we should be kind and compassionate, with love and tolerance for all, there comes a point that I draw the line.
I have learned not to let anger rule my actions. To respond - not react. But when someone - anyone - acts out in a manner that is unacceptable, I have to take action.
My skin has gotten a bit thicker over the years, and I am no longer offended by the slights of people who don't really think before they speak or act. I have learned that it's none of my business what others think of me - that at the end of the day I have only myself and my God to answer to. I have also learned that I no longer have to let anyone treat me like a doormat.
Abuse, whether it be physical, mental, emotional, verbal, or even written, is just that - abuse. And it is wrong. No one has the right to treat me in a manner that I find offensive. NO MATTER WHAT RATIONALE THEY USE.
Quite the contrary, I have the right - no, make that the responsibility - to say "NO, YOU CANNOT DO THAT TO ME."
I don't have to respond with vulgarity or tears, and I don't have to act like some banshee bitch from hell. On the other hand, I also don't have to legitimize it and say it's OK.
No, I am a sane and sober WOMAN. I can just turn my back, hang up the phone, walk away or just hit the delete key and not feel one bit guilty about it. My happiness is my responsibility - no one else's.
This is my dance space - bought and paid for with buckets of ink and gallons of tears. I will let you know when you are welcome in it.
Peace.
